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STOP Telling People To Regulate Their F*cking Nervous System!

7 November, 2025

When Calm Becomes the New Colonizer
(A somatic love letter to the misunderstood nervous system)

Let’s be honest — the phrase “just regulate your nervous system” has become the new spiritual gold standard.
But regulate into what, and for whose comfort?

When “calm” becomes the only acceptable nervous system state, we start worshipping stillness and banishing aliveness.
We silence rage, grief, and trembling — the very expressions that are trying to complete the body’s stress cycle.

The nervous system was never designed to stay calm.
It was designed to move.
To pulse, to shake, to cry, to roar.

True regulation isn’t control — it’s capacity.
It’s the ability to flow between activation and rest without losing connection to yourself or the world.

And yet, most of us have learned to shut that flow down.
Through cognitive override.
Cultural conditioning.
Over-coping.
“Good vibes only.”

When calm becomes compliance, healing becomes performance.
And we lose touch with the wild, intelligent organism that knows exactly how to complete what never got to.

Your Body Is Not Broken: Somatic Healing in Late Stage Capitalism

26 August, 2025

Capitalism whispers: “Your worth = your productivity.” Patriarchy whispers: “Dominate. Extract. Obey.” And your body? Your body whispers something else entirely— but it’s harder to hear in a world that profits from your disconnection. How Capitalism Shapes Us Before We’re Even Born Capitalism and socio-economic pressures shape us before we even take our first breath. For tens of thousands of years, humans lived in small, connected tribes—where the whole village raised the children. Today, most parents are left isolated, drowning in financial stress, forced to succeed in the rat race just to survive. And here’s the truth: capitalism doesn’t just shape culture “out there.” It literally wires into our nervous systems “in here.” A caretaker’s ability to regulate their own nervous system teaches a baby’s system how to regulate. But when parents are overworked, under-supported, and chronically stressed about money, survival, and productivity—this regulation becomes nearly impossible. The baby feels this. The baby absorbs this. And it shapes brain development, the immune system, emotional regulation, and even how that child will one day relate to others and to themselves. Trauma Isn’t Always “One Big Event” We often think of trauma as abuse or catastrophic events, but it can also be the invisible, repeated stresses of disconnection—the moments of neglect, emotional absence, or relational rupture that layer over time. This is complex trauma. It teaches the nervous system: The world is unsafe. My needs are too much. I must perform or please to belong. I am inherently bad, wrong, or broken. This is how systems like capitalism, patriarchy, consumerism, and colonialism live inside us. They thrive when we are sick, exhausted, disconnected, and ashamed—because then we are easier to control. The Weight of the Shadow Every expectation. Every “should.” Every silenced impulse. Every swallowed truth. Every unshed tear. They don’t just vanish. They live in the body— in fascia, in gut, in posture, in jaw. They live in the parts of us carrying internalized beliefs and survival strategies. This is why the grind feels endless. This is why shame feels like home. This is why collapse feels like rest. Not because you are broken— but because your body is adapting to survive a culture that constantly overrides its wisdom. The Wound of Disconnection Most of the crises we face today—burnout, climate collapse, polarization, violence—stem from one root wound: disconnection. From our bodies. From each other. From the Earth. And yet: you are already whole. You belong simply because you exist. We are not separate. We are interwoven—like the mycelium networks in the forest, built on mutual care, reciprocity, and support. People aren’t the problem. The systems are. And not every body has the same privilege or access to resources. Which is why creating safe-enough spaces—for rest, play, expression, truth—is not a luxury, it’s a birthright. How the System Lives in Your Soma Capitalism isn’t just an external system. It literally shapes us from the inside out: Muscles contract. Jaws clench. Stress loops repeat. Inflammation builds. Survival becomes the baseline. Collapse feels like rest. Pleasure feels unsafe. Connection feels dangerous. Toxic shame feels familiar. We disconnect from the body’s signals, the mind speeds up to “fix” it, and we end up in the disembodiment loop. This is the somatic shadow—the invisible baggage of systems we didn’t choose but still carry in our tissues. The Polycrisis in the Body The planetary polycrisis—climate collapse, war, mass burnout, rising polarization— isn’t separate from our personal crises. They live in the same nervous system. Humans are apex predators who forgot they are also mammals—wired for connection, community, and reciprocity. When our needs for safety, belonging, and dignity are unmet, survival mode takes over: me vs. you, us vs. them, dominate or be dominated. This is why we are sick. This is why the Earth is sick. Because the same extractive logic lives in our bodies. Somatic Healing: Embodied Liberation Here’s the thing: your body isn’t broken. It’s adapting. Protecting. Communicating. Somatic healing is not about fixing yourself or buying another “self-improvement” solution the system profits from. It’s about remembering. It’s about listening. It’s about slowly meeting the parts of you that learned to collapse, to hustle, to numb, to hide— and welcoming them back home with compassion. This is embodied liberation. This is shadow integration. This is how we stop blaming ourselves for what systems have written into our bodies—and reclaim self-trust, choice, agency, power. When we resource enough safety, the body knows how to complete the stress cycle. It shakes. It cries. It softens. It finds rhythm again. It remembers connection. And in remembering— we reclaim what capitalism wants us to forget: our humanity. Our aliveness. Our interdependence. Somatic Shadow Work Prompts Pause here. Notice which line landed in your body. Drop a word, image, or sensation in your journal. Here are some prompts to deepen the practice: If capitalism or patriarchy had a shape or texture inside me, what would it be? Where does my body feel pulled to contract, hustle, or hide? If my nervous system could speak right now, what would it say? What small act of softness—or rebellion—does my body long for? What conditions would help my body feel safe enough to connect to its own wisdom? What parts of me need more space, rest, play, movement, connection, or pleasure? Imagine your embodied transformation rippling out into the collective—what shifts? Coming Back Into Wholeness Your body is not a machine to optimize. It is a piece of Earth. It remembers rhythms, cycles, seasons. When we feel safe enough in our own skin, we access: Gut instincts + primal impulses. Compassion + inherent worth. The deep interconnection of all life. Somatic healing isn’t just individual—it’s collective. It’s shining light on the shadow of systems. It’s remembering what our ancestors knew: healing is communal, ecological, embodied. This is what it…
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Coming Home to the Body: Why Somatic Healing is a Revolution

28 June, 2025

For most of human history, our ancestors lived in harmony with the natural world, their bodies deeply attuned to the rhythms of the earth. As nomadic hunter-gatherers, they moved with the seasons, felt the pulse of the land beneath their feet, and relied on instinct to survive – as all other animals. Life was an embodied experience—movement, presence, and connection weren’t luxuries; they were survival. But something shifted. Around 12,000 years ago, the agricultural revolution changed everything. Settling into permanent communities introduced hierarchy, ownership, control—not just over land, but over bodies and emotions. The body, once honored as wise, became something to discipline, dominate, ignore. We began the slow drift into what we might call the trance of disembodiment. Over generations, this severing from somatic intelligence has shaped how we relate to ourselves, each other, and the earth. The effects? Chronic stress. Anxiety. Burnout. Disconnection. A society where people feel isolated in a hyperconnected world. How Disconnection Became the Default Humans are wired for connection. As social mammals, we co-regulate: our nervous systems respond to others via tone of voice, facial expression, posture, presence. Safety isn’t just an idea—it’s a felt sense. Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory explains this well. When we feel supported and seen, our ventral vagal systemactivates. We feel grounded, curious, connected. Our body becomes a safe place to be. But when connection is lost—through trauma, stress, or systemic oppression—the body reacts: Fight/Flight: Hypervigilance, reactivity, anxiety Freeze/Shutdown: Numbness, withdrawal, dissociation This isn’t just personal. It’s collective. Capitalism, colonialism, patriarchy—all systems that reinforce separation, suppression, and survival over safety and sovereignty. And the result? Chronic pain, tension, autoimmune conditions Emotional exhaustion, high-functioning anxiety Nervous systems stuck in overdrive or collapse But what if these symptoms are not dysfunction? What if they are your body’s intelligent response to a world that is constantly overstimulating, unsafe, and unrelenting? The Somatic Shadow: Befriending the Parts That Protected You When we disconnect from our bodies, we also disconnect from the parts of ourselves that once learned how to keep us safe. Those parts—maybe perfectionism, people-pleasing, freezing, over-achieving, caretaking—aren’t flaws. They are protectors. In Internal Family Systems (IFS) language, they are adaptive, wise parts of us that emerged in childhood or crisis to preserve love, belonging, safety. But what protected you then might now be holding you back. These parts try to help, but when they run the show, we lose access to our embodied Self. The true Self is not a performance. It’s not a perfect version of you. It is the you that exists underneath survival: calm, clear, connected, curious, creative, compassionate. Somatic healing helps us re-establish this Self-leadership—not from the mind, but from the body. Because trauma isn’t stored in thoughts. It lives in: Fascia Breath patterns Posture Muscle tension Sensations and impulses The nervous system doesn’t speak in words. It speaks in rhythm. Heat. Shaking. Tears. Stillness. Tingling. And when we bring curiosity and compassionate attention to those body signals, healing begins. We don’t push the protectors away. We invite them into the light and ask: “What are you trying to protect me from?” “Is that still true now?” “What do you need from me?” This is somatic shadow work. Not about fixing. About witnessing. Validating. Reclaiming what was exiled. Because you are the medicine. And your body knows the way. The Body Remembers: Why Somatic Healing Works In The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk reminds us: trauma is not just a memory. It’s a physiological imprint. The body doesn’t forget. But it can learn to feel safe again. With the right conditions: Co-regulation (a safe, attuned presence) Choice (the opposite of trauma) Embodied practices (not just talk, but movement) This is where Soma Yoga, TCTSY (Trauma Center Trauma Sensitive Yoga), and somatic rituals come in. These are not about perfect poses or pushing through pain. These are about listening. Feeling. Releasing. Reclaiming. They help us: Shift from sympathetic overdrive or dorsal shutdown to ventral safety Release chronic tension and stored stress Increase vagal tone and resilience Repattern our relationship with power, play, presence, and pleasure This is the body completing what was once interrupted. This is the nervous system remembering: I am safe enough now. Heart Coherence & Returning to Wholeness When the body feels safe, the heart can open. The HeartMath Institute shows us that when our heart rhythms are coherent with brain waves, we experience: Better emotional regulation Increased clarity and connection A felt sense of purpose and peace Ancient traditions always knew this. They spoke of the heart as the seat of the soul. Now neuroscience echoes their wisdom. And this is what embodiment makes possible: To return to the heart. To become attuned to something deeper than fear. To feel yourSelf, lead yourSelf, be yourSelf. Embodiment as Rebellion In a world that profits off your disconnection, coming back to your body is a radical act. It is spiritual. It is political. It is ancestral. It is feminine. And it is necessary. Because when we heal in the body— We stop the cycle. We disrupt the story. We remember who we were before the world told us who to be. This is the revolution. Not out there. In here. In the flesh. In the breath. In the trembling. In the choosing. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be present. Your body is not a problem to fix. It is a portal home. Ready to reconnect with your body and reclaim your Self-leadership? Join Soma Heal — my online studio for nervous system-based practices, Soma Yoga, and somatic rituals. CLICK HERE to start your 7-day free trial. You are the medicine. Let’s return home—together..

Your Voice: A Sacred Portal to Nervous System Healing (and why regulation isn’t about being Zen 24/7)

12 February, 2025

Did you know your voice is one of the most powerful tools for nervous system regulation and healing? More than just a way to communicate, your voice is a direct pathway to connection, safety, and embodied transformation. When we begin to reclaim our voice, we tap into an ancient biological wisdom that helps us feel safe, supported, and actually alive—not just surviving, but thriving.

You Can’t Outsmart Your Nervous System: The Power of Feeling, Moving, and Befriending Your Emotions

20 December, 2024

Emotions: Your Body’s Inner Compass

Emotions are energy in motion—e-motion—designed to flow naturally through your body. They’re not problems to fix or weaknesses to overcome; they’re your body’s way of communicating its needs, signaling safety or threat, and helping you process the world.

Even emotions like anger, sadness, grief, or shame—often labeled as “bad” or “unacceptable”—aren’t flaws. They’re evolutionary tools meant to guide and protect you. The challenge arises when we interrupt this natural flow, either by overthinking or suppressing them, leaving emotions stuck in the body.

Why Humans Are Stuck in Their Heads

For most of human history, humans lived in small, tight-knit communities. Like other mammals, we’re wired for connection and belonging—this wasn’t just a luxury; it was key to survival. Being part of a group ensured safety, resources, and emotional support. Feeling seen, understood, and cared for regulated our nervous systems and helped us thrive.

But as we shifted away from communal living during the agricultural revolution, hyper-individualism and isolation replaced connection and cooperation. Productivity, ownership, and competition took center stage, pulling us away from the natural rhythms of life and into a state of constant doing.

This shift disrupted more than our social fabric—it rewired our nervous systems. When connection is absent, our body perceives it as danger. As Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory explains, social connection activates the ventral vagal system, which supports calm, safety, and compassion. Without it, we default to survival states like fight, flight, freeze, fawn,, or shutdown, cutting ourselves off from others and even from ourselves.

Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Can’t: Implicit Memories and Somatic Healing

2 December, 2024

When it comes to stress and trauma, your body is like that friend who remembers every awkward detail about the time you tripped in high school—except it doesn’t just remember the moments; it stores them. Whether it’s a knot in your stomach when someone raises their voice or a sudden freeze when you’re overwhelmed, your body holds onto experiences, even when your brain decides to hit the “forget” button. Your brain is like that overprotective friend who means well but ends up creating chaos. It’s always either reliving the past—“Remember that embarrassing thing you said in 2008? Let’s cringe about it for hours!”—or trying to predict the future—“What if everything goes wrong? Let’s panic just in case!” This isn’t malicious. Your brain is just doing its job: protecting you. It’s scanning for threats, thanks to its trusty negativity bias, which is like having a personal alarm system set to “paranoia.” It remembers all the bad stuff to keep you safe and adapts to the environment around you. But here’s the catch: instead of hanging out in the real world, your brain often keeps you stuck in a virtual reality of worst-case scenarios and past disasters. Meanwhile, your body is over here like, “Hey, I’m in the present moment! Wanna join me?” When the brain and body stop communicating, though, it’s bad news. Research shows that this disconnection can lead to chronic stress, emotional dysregulation, and even physical health issues like inflammation and heart disease (Van der Kolk, 2014; Chrousos, 2009). The brain might be busy replaying past failures or imagining future catastrophes, but without feedback from the body, it can’t accurately gauge what’s happening right now. That’s like trying to navigate with a broken GPS—it’s just guesswork. The thing is, your body is your true bestie(even though in all reality our brain is part of our body too lol). It’s always working to help you survive, adapt, and even thrive. But if your mind is running the show solo, you end up disconnected from your body’s wisdom, stuck in a loop of overthinking, and missing what’s actually happening right now. To sum it up: Your brain’s a bit of a drama queen, but your body? Total grounding MVP. And when they’re on speaking terms, magic happens—you heal, grow, and actually enjoy the ride. Now to the topic of trauma, which thanks to new science isnt viewed as just the experience but what happens inside of us as a result. From the perspective of psychobiology trauma is an interrupted stress response and all the creative ways we adapt to protect ourselves as a result of the wound that happened. So it’s not like they used to think that trauma is just a psychological wound, it doesn’t just live in our memories, sometimes we actually have no memory or words for what happened; it’s imprinted in our posture, movements, physiological responses, and the way we perceive ourselves and navigate the world. Chronic stress or early attachment wounds—like inconsistent care, abuse or chronic emotional misattunemets—shape how we hold ourselves. Leaning forward might signal a drive to please or seek connection, collapsing inward could reflect defeat or helplessness, while moving against others, with a rigid, defensive posture, may guard against harm. These patterns are not flaws—they’re adaptations your body developed to keep you safe in the moment – only what was helpful back then often becomes the root of our issues as adults. So the process of soamtic healing is finding ways to let the body, the nervous system, know that right now we are safe enough. When the body does not feel safe aka survival mode, we cannot fully take in new information, experience, connect socially, or engage in life in adaptive ways , only reacting in protective ways – survival comes first. The Body as a Keeper of Memory This is why early life adversity leaves such a profound mark. Our baby nervous system is constantly scanning the enviroment, learning, and adapting all In the name of survival. The memories might not live in your conscious mind, but they exist in your body as implicit memories (and subconscious)—the unspoken sensations, automatic reactions, imagery, and emotions that pop up seemingly out of nowhere. As Dr. Pat Ogden says: “The body remembers what the mind forgets.” A traumatic event—especially in early childhood—signals your brain’s alarm system (the amygdala) floods your body with stress hormones, while the rational thinking brain (prefrontal cortex) is not yet fully developed to help you process what’s happening. In infancy and early childhood, the hippocampus is still maturing, which means it cannot effectively organize experiences into cohesive narratives. Instead, these experiences are stored as fragmented bits—sensations, images, or physical reactions—without clear context or a sense of time. As the brain develops later in life, traumatic experiences may still overwhelm the hippocampus, especially if the nervous system is already dysregulated from earlier stress or attachment disruptions. This can result in a similar fragmented storage of memories, with emotions and body sensations remaining disconnected from the conscious, logical understanding of events. It’s also crucial to acknowledge how our identity, privilege, and intersections with systemic oppression influence the ways trauma impacts us. Factors like race, gender, class, disability, and sexual orientation shape both the types of traumatic experiences we might face and the resources available to us for healing.As humans we all have the same needs of physical resources like food, water, and shelter, but we also all need to feel safety, belonging, and dignity and unfortunately these resources are not distributed equally. For individuals from marginalized communities, trauma is often not a singular event but an ongoing experience rooted in systemic inequalities, discrimination, and generational oppression. The chronic nature of this trauma can keep the nervous system in a persistent state of survival, further complicating the healing process. Recognizing these dynamics ensures that trauma-informed care is inclusive, equitable, and responsive to the diverse ways trauma shows up in our bodies and lives. These body-based memories linger, influencing how you respond to…
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I don’t get angry I grow a tumor instead

1 October, 2024

That was a quote from Gabor Mate’s book “When the body says NO”, which highlighted his findings as a physician working in palliative care, addressing all The similarities in groups of people with certain dus-eases like cancer or auto-immune. And as I read this book, I recognized myself and intuitively felt it in my gut as being true for me, as someone who was diagnosed with cancer 7 years ago. Gabor goes on to explain that new science has been showing us that the repression of anger is a major risk factor for disease because it increases physiological stress on the WHOLE organism. In other words, holding this energy of anger inside stresses out our whole body. In our dominat culture it’s commonly thought that getting angry is what causes us stress,you know “good vibes only” and all that.. and sure it does in the moment, but it’s the interrupted stress response and unexperienced anger that is the PROBLEM. Anger isn’t our enemy, it’s our friend. Anger, is what is meant to warn us when we are unsafe, it’s a cue to set boundaries and claim our space. Anger is a wise messenger that lets us know when we’re let down because our needs aren’t being met, and when to ROAR and stick up for ourselves. Anger signals about our passions and desires. Anger keeps us SAFE, from real or perceived threat. Sometimes the threat lives on in our body from early childhood wounds, and so anger can be a fierce protector of these more vulnerable younger parts of us. Anger is a life force, our smpathetic nervous system, our SURVIVAL. Many of us have grown up thinking that anger is something BAD, impolite, a burden, shameful, sinful, violent, dangerous, or that it’s just “too much”. This can sometimes stem from early life attachmet wounds, trauma, OR it can be caused by all the conditioning, socialization, and gender training by our dominat culture aka “how to be a good cultured human”. But the truth is anger is an essential human mammal emotion, like could you imagine a bear not having it? Do you think a mama bear will stop to ask her friend if she should get angry at the wolf that’s trying to scare her cubs? No she instictively will react and protect, unfortuently most of us humans have disconnected from these impulses, our instincts, our biology, our wise animal body and are living up in our HEADS. Often times anger is also something that as women and other marginalized communities we have learned to bury deep within,to mask, to hold in, while painting a fake smile on our face and appeasing in order to stay safe. What a genius survival skill, AND at the same time this unexpressed anger (survival stress) is making us SICK. But how can we feel safe enough to feel + express it in a world that is NOT SAFE for us to be authentic? So it’s no wonder that women are twice as likely to have PTSD than men. That African American women are three times more likely to develop lupus than white women. That Native Americans have the highest rates of substance use disorders compared to other ethnic groups. This is more than genes and homrones, it’s the impact of living in this toxic culture we have created as a species. Anger is a life-force. It’s something all life holds within itself. It’s what makes a seed grow into a flower and a puppy into a dog. It gives us energy to grow and move forward in life. This life force of anger isn’t just something “bad” or evil like violence and rage as many of us may have been taught early on, it’s on a continuum. Rage and violence is actually what often happens if we’ve been hurt and internalized it, if we weren’t safe enough to express ourselves, to experience the emotion and be mirrored back, to make a boundary, have autonomy or choice. That’s when we start to turn it in on ourselves like I did for most of my life, and eventually externalizing, exploding, and projecting it outwards. The first step of reclaiming our birthright of this healthy aggression and life force is to start to arrive back in our body and learn to speak it’s language – slowly and intentionally. You might notice, what happens when you get angry? Do you tend to override it by taking deep breaths, by plastering a smile on your face, by going up into your head and thinking about it, or saying you are “fine” if someone asks you what’s wrong? What would it be like to instead take a SACRED PAUSE (if it’s safe to do so) to notice and feel this healthy aggression, this life force activating inside you as it is? Is there tingling, tensing, a faster breath maybe? How do you know its anger? And would you need in this moment to feel safe enough to connect to and express it? What wants to happen next? Is there a movement or a sound that wants to come out? What would it be like to follow that impulse? 🙂

THE SHADOW SIDE OF SELF-CARE… АКА ТОХІС ENTITLEMENT

19 September, 2024

We all know the importance of self-care, especially in our dominant culture that tends to push us towards constant productivity + external rewards, often leaving us feeling guilty to slow down, rest, feel pleasure and take time for ourselves… BUT IS THERE A FLIP SIDE TO THIS? When we see ourselves as Separate, it can be natural to feel threatened by “others” and to focus on only “me and my healing” which can sometimes move from helpful, towards the shadow side of hyper-individualism, ego inflation, and toxic entitlement. This isn’t something “bad” or evil, it’s how we adapted and once LEARNED to protect ourselves. it makes so much sense. And at the same time, if want to truly feel safe, connecting to our body, nature, other humans, and feeling that we BELONG here is necessary. as mammals we are wired for survival through connection. So once we start to feel safe enough in our body, it could be supportive to start to remember our INTERCONNECTEDNESS with all life or like Pando which is the worlds largest living organism with an estimated 47,000 stems that appear as individual trees, but are connected by a root system that spans 106 acres. each of its stems has the same genes and it’s huge interconnected root system coordinates energy production, defense and regeneration. Collectively we have forgotten what our ancestors have always known, we are not seperate but part of this larger ecosystem web of life. Feeling seperate is the source of our pain, fears, and urge to dominate and control as a species, realizing our interconnectedness with all of life can be a path towards collective healing and a hope for a brighter future for ALL. If forest ecosystems can thrive based on cooperation and support, why can’t we humans do the same?

relationships are HARD…AND can also be an opportunity to heal our deepest wounds

5 September, 2024

Intimate relationships can be a sacred portal into healing these past emotional wounds of our younger self aka the inner child.

Shadow work for women

22 August, 2024

Be sexy but don’t be a slut. Lose weight, but be curvy. Be vulnerable, but don’t show emotion. Be confident, but don’t be a bitch. Be authentic, but don’t show too much. Be ready to please, but don’t give your power away. Be smart, but not too smart. Be natural, but shave your body hair. Be strong, but stay soft. Be bold, but stay silent. Be original, but don’t be too much. Be tame, but also a freak. To be a lady they said… Impossible. Here’s some thoughts about how we can come into a life of wholeness + authenticity as women👇 When we embrace our shadow and befriend our body, we start to unravel the conditioning + break free from all these societal “norms” and “shoulds” of the “role” of a woman. These layers of programming keep us stuck and disconnected from what’s raw, real, and authentically ours – the intelligence of our animal body + the intuition of our heart, in other words the wisdom of our authentic embodied Self. These rules and impossible expectations create inner pressure, cycles of self-doubt, protective fragmentation, nervous system dysregulation and dis-ease. It’s no wonder that 80% of people with autoimmune are women, or that we are twice as likely to develop PTSD. Somatic shadow work invites us to get compassionately curious and courageously vulnerable, feeling into what we’ve been taught to ignore- our inner voice and the felt sense of our wise animal body. This is where embodied transformation begins. It’s a journey of being guided by sacred rage, confronting our hidden fears, and allowing ourselves to grieve unmet needs and wounds. This makes space for contacting our deepest desires, the wisdom of our body, and bringing home those orphaned parts of Self we may have once hidden to belong, be loved, to stay safe and connected. It’s in our human animal nature to share, care, and belong to our herd, and at the same time, fitting in to a toxic tight little distorted BOX is not the same thing as truly belonging to an embracing community, just for being you. You belong here just as you are. You belong for being YOU. There’s nothing you have to do, to prove your worth. It’s ok to disappoint others sometimes, so you can tend and befriend your SELF. When we begin to untangle these emotional wounds and unravel the societal shoulds, we step into a life of wholeness, liberation, authenticity, and deep self intimacy + enoughness. We begin to accept ourselves fully, just as we are without the need to be externally validated – that’s freedom🩷 What parts of you are wanting to be witnessed? What might you need to feel safe enough to express + give them voice? check out this video that always brings me to tears on YouTube shine light on your shadow, start your somatic coaching journey explore all my offerings