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The Sister Wound, and how to start healing our relationships with other women

May 20, 2023

Sister, woman, goddess who knows, we don’t have to compete with each other. We don’t have to mistrust or envy each other. This is not our natural state.In the past, women often came together to create, celebrate, and experience difficult moments together. We didn’t destroy each other. Women gathered at the well, by the fire, in tents, ate together at tables, or gathered in nature, creating magical healing experiences where they listened to each other and drew wisdom from each other. Women began to grow stronger, more expressive. Unfortunately, the history of witch hunts and patriarchal oppression took that away from us. You might be thinking, why were witches hunted in Europe and early colonies? Simply because they were women and dared to come together in community. There is nothing more dangerous to a system and people who want to rule than individuals who are aware of their power. The witch hunts (along with the genocide of indigenous peoples during colonialism) were attempts to halt the development, healing, and empowerment of women (and indigenous peoples) in groups. This collaboration and power threatened the patriarchal structure that kept them powerless. And so, millions of women (and indigenous peoples) were killed over the years for being “witches,” “shamans,” and “devils.” Ultimately, women stopped coming together and stopped trusting each other. And patriarchy continued, and a deep part of us probably still feels uneasy about these kinds of gatherings due to the historically associated dangers. This is called collective or intergenerational trauma. We may not consciously remember it, but much research suggests that our ancestors pass on their difficult experiences to us genetically and epigenetically. (https://amp.theguardian.com/science/2015/aug/21/study-of-holocaust-survivors-finds-trauma-passed-on-to-childrens-genes) Modern media and culture often perpetuate these negative beliefs, which further hinder our community-building. By overcoming these beliefs and reclaiming sisterhood, we can heal our wounds and regain the power that has been taken from us but still resides within us. What is the sister wound? The sister wound is the pain and mistrust between women. It is the result of a patriarchal society that harms us and pits us against each other instead of uniting us. Healing the sister wound gives us the power and magic that we can reclaim. It is the last thing patriarchy wants us to focus on. By lifting and supporting each other, we counteract the system of oppression. Healing the sister wound is our rebellion against patriarchy and the key to reclaiming our power. This wound grows in darkness and isolation. To heal it, we must step into the light. By seeing each other without fear, we can heal in circles, in ceremonies, in community. This is our strength against patriarchy. Being in community is crucial for healing the sister wound. In women’s circles, we can share our shame, fears, and uncertainties, and you begin to recognize yourself in the words of other women, like in a fairy tale mirror. This circle magic happens when you hear other women, women you may perceive as “confident,” and realize that they have the same feelings, wounds, and experiences as you. “Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.” – Brene Brown You probably feel that these shameful parts are alive within us all the time, living in darkness and our subconscious. But they cannot be healed until we bring them into the light. By healing the parts of ourselves that live in the basement of our subconscious, we alchemize emotions, turning them into gold and transforming our lives. And we don’t have to do it alone. You probably feel that these shameful parts are alive within us all the time, living in the darkness and in our subconscious. But they cannot be healed until we bring them into the light. By healing the parts of ourselves that live in the basement of our subconscious, we alchemize emotions, turning them into gold and transforming our lives. And we don’t have to do it alone. We can support and uplift each other, allowing us to regain our power, build connections, and see women as sisters rather than competitors. Participating in women’s gatherings or circles can gradually untangle all these knots woven by patriarchy. It can have a beautiful and magical impact on your life Common examples of the sister wound include: ◦ Difficulties in establishing and maintaining healthy relationships with other women due to feelings of mistrust or jealousy. ◦ Low self-worth or lack of self-confidence, especially in social situations with other women. ◦ Tendency to unfavorably compare oneself to other women or feel threatened by their success or achievements. Three ways in which we can begin to heal the sister wound: ◦ Building awareness and understanding that competition and jealousy among women result from systemic oppression, not inherent to femininity. ◦ Practicing empathy and supporting other women, instead of comparing oneself to them or treating them as rivals. ◦ Co-creating safe spaces where you can openly discuss your experiences and feelings with other women, share emotions, and support each other in the healing process, such as women’s circles. The sister wound has deep roots, dating back to the burning of women at the stakes. However, I believe that we can break this cycle, especially in today’s times of chaos, striving for success at any cost, dominance, and polarization. Our planet needs cooperation, community, and compassion, which are all aspects of the divine feminine energy that flows within each of us (not just women). If we want our planet and the future of our children and families to be beautiful and prosperous, we must reunite. We must reclaim the right to be together with other women and create healing experiences. It’s time to stop hiding and invite girls to the table, to the circle. By overcoming these beliefs and reclaiming the sisterly bond, we can heal our wounds and regain the power that has been taken away from us but still lives within us. If you’re interested, come and co-create with us in the Women’s Circle! The next meeting is on June 3rd, click HERE.…
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Feminie Archetypes and how embracing the Wild Woman could change your life

May 8, 2023

For some time now, the goddesses have been calling to me, particularly the archetype associated with the “wild” woman. I have a difficult past, full of trauma and pain, like many of us, and for a long time it was hard for me to see or feel anything else, as I identified so strongly with that suffering. Various therapies, techniques, and methods have helped me on my path to healing, growth, and embodiment, but for some time now, working with archetypes has been close to my heart. Many studies show how helpful acting, role-playing, or embodying different characters or archetypes can be, because they help us see and FEEL in our own bodies that we can be and live differently. There is something called superhero therapy, and trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has long talked about how important acting and theater can be in the healing process. Imagine for a moment what it would be like to embody the role of your favorite superheroine or goddess. How would she move, speak, or exist in her life? How does it feel to be her? There are many archetypes, and I will slowly introduce them to you, but today I want to focus on the wild woman, who can help you reconnect with yourself and feel the inner power that is and has always been within you. Feminine archetypes are universal patterns of behavior, thought, personality and emotion that are associated with femininity. These archetypes have been recognized across cultures and throughout history, and they are often represented as goddesses, mythical figures, or role models for women.The idea of feminine archetypes has its roots in ancient mythology, where goddesses and female deities were revered and celebrated for their unique qualities and powers. Over time, these archetypes have evolved and adapted to changing cultural norms and values. The concept of working with archetypes was first introduced by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, who explored the idea of these archetypes being present in the collective unconscious of all humans. Jung identified several archetypes, including the anima and animus (representing the feminine and masculine aspects of the psyche, respectively), the shadow (representing the darker, repressed aspects of the psyche), and the self (representing wholeness and integration). Jung’s work on archetypes laid the foundation for further exploration of feminine archetypes by subsequent thinkers such as Jean Shinoda Bolen. Jean Shinoda Bolen expanded on Jung’s work on feminine archetypes by identifying specific archetypes, pairing them with goddesses and exploring their psychological and cultural significance. She wrote extensively about archetypes such as the mother, the maiden, and the crone, and argued that recognizing and embracing these archetypes could lead to personal growth and social change. Bolen also emphasized the importance of women’s relationships with one another and the role of the feminine in healing and transformation. Overall, Bolen’s work built on Jung’s framework by providing a more nuanced and detailed exploration of feminine archetypes and their relevance for contemporary women. Bolen’s work on goddesses and archetypes has been influential in feminist spirituality and personal growth movements. These archetypes are not fixed or rigid, and they can be interpreted and embodied in many different ways, depending on an individual’s personal experience and cultural context. Today, many women use these archetypes as a tool for self-discovery and personal growth, drawing inspiration from the stories, myths, movies, and qualities of these powerful female figures. By tapping into these archetypes, women can connect with their own inner strength, creativity, and intuition, and learn to embody these qualities in their own lives. Who is the WILD woman archetype? The wild woman is an archetype that represents the primal, untamed energy within us, and working with her can help us embrace our own wildness and connect with our inner power. Working with the her can also help challenge and break down the patriarchal conditioning and social norms that have suppressed women’s power and expression for the last couple thousand years. The wild woman is often associated with nature, animals, and the wilderness, and she embodies the fierce and unapologetic spirit of the natural world. She is not afraid to speak her truth, express her desires, and follow her own path, even if it means going against the norms of society. Working with the wild woman archetype can help us remember that as humans we come from nature, and to connect with our own inner wildness embracing our true selves. By embodying this archetype, we can tap into our intuition, creativity, and inner power, and live our lives on our own terms, without conforming to societal expectations or looking for external validation. By embracing our inner wild woman, we can start to reclaim our autonomy and challenge these oppressive structures, creating a more equitable society for all. The wild woman archetype invites us to break free from the limiting beliefs and expectations that have held us back and to embrace our MOST authentic Self, which in turn can inspire and empower others to do the same. By embodying the wild woman energy, we can contribute to a larger shift towards authenticity, empowerment, and equality, dismantling these uneven structures from within. Some tips for working with the wild woman: 1. Embrace your intuition, your inner knowing, your instincts, trust your gut, and listen to your inner voice. 2. Connect with your body. Try to move mindfully and sensually, tuning into the wisdom of your body and listen to what it’s telling you. 3. Honor your emotions. Sheinvites us to feel deeply and express our emotions. All your emotions are valid. 4. Embody your inner wildness. She celebrates the untamed spirit within us, express your creativity, and pursue your passions. 5. Connect with nature. We are animals, and like all living beings we come from nature. This can awaken respect and care for nature, inspires sustainability, supports healing and restoration creating a more harmonious future for all living beings. Wild Woman Goddesses from different cultures: Artemis, Pele, Kali, Sekhmet, Morrigan. Remember, working with the wild woman…
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